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How to Use Strap On Dildo

Posted: 30/09/2019

How to Use Strap On Dildo

When it comes to exploring the wonderful world of sex toys, there is a lot to think about and consider. One of the most interesting sex toys is that of a strap on dildo. The preferred choice of many partners, the use of a harness with the dildo in a natural location ensures you can get plenty of enjoyment and action from using it. With a strong, flared base and an O-ring harness to keep your strap on dildo in place (normally), this ensures you have a very good base to start from.

Typically, most strap on dildos will come with a jock strap, a thong-lick finish, or a standard boxer-short style finish. It all depends what kind of harness you would find most comfortable, really. The challenge you probably have is making sure that you can use this toy properly in the bedroom.

You need to try

While you can’t try before you buy with a strap on dildo, you can give them a shot and work out if it was what you want. It will mean investing time and money into working out if this is exactly what you are looking for – most of the time, you’ll need to go through a fair amount of trial and error to get it right.

Really, though, you should be willing to try our two or three different types because you will find differences in every style. From the size and shape to the material and features, every strap on that you look at will come with its own characteristics.

This means that all you can do is put it to good work and try them out. You might not have the perfect time with a strap on at first, but you’ll be able to have plenty of fun even if it’s not 100%.

Get a fitting harness

Your harness has to be quality made and it has to be relatively snug. You need to have control over the dildo which means it cannot be loose. But it cannot be too tight or you will do yourself plenty of harm with the excessive tightness. Try and look for one with adjustable straps, and you can edit and move it around as you go – this should really help with the discomfort that a lot of people get with such a tool.

You will also find that many harnesses will come with nice extras, such as a little bullet vibrator that is attached. This can be useful for giving yourself some added pleasure when you are with your partner, so keep that in mind as you go about your buying choices. Overall, though, fit should always come before features.

Let your partner pick

Are you buying a strap on for someone in particular? Then the best way to learn how to use a strap on dildo is to let them pick the phallus itself. They will be the ones getting the most use out of it, so you want them to know it is 100% to their liking. Using such a tool becomes a lot easier when the recipient of the pleasure has picked a dildo that they know is going to feel great when it enters.

So, you should always keep that kind of thing in mind. You should let your partner pick the actual dildo side of things as that can go a long, long way to making sure that you get full use out of it. If they do not like the dildo, then they can find it hard to enjoy the experience. This means plenty of moving around and an inability to find a fluidity or rhythm to your thrusts.

Form a connection

This might sound odd, but the easiest way to learn how to use a strap on dildo is to equip it and then masturbate on your own. You don’t need to use it – you just need to have it there. You can then play with it, feel it, imagine it; you will be able to get a far clearer idea of what your strap on is capable of if you get used to seeing how much it can turn you on personally.

It’s great for making sure that you grow comfortable in both its presence and its use. When you do this, you create a sense of power and control over what can be a rather confusing addition to the bedroom. Do this for long enough, and you’ll soon have a dildo that you can enjoy using with your partner – and using with maximum confidence in yourself as much as anything. 

And remember, lube will make it better!